When you are a single gal living on your own, the budget can get really tight. This can lead to hostility (at the beginning) and sacrifices (often) when you are a former shopaholic that racked up well over $5000 of credit card debt on your own within three years time. After years of working hard, you've managed to pay off the debt, but now, you can't spend as freely as you used to.
If you are like me, and most of America, you are living paycheck to paycheck. I was taking stock of my kitchen the other day and realized that I needed to stock up on some basic essentials. You know, the things you should always have in your kitchen. This list was gathering length when I realized I had a hair appointment scheduled for the weekend that had already been rescheduled once before.
It started with a phone conversation with my mom. I was discussing my options: either stock up my kitchen and skip the hair appointment (Which, let's face it, I desperately need.), or, just get the basics and keep the hair appointment. To do both, I would have to dip into my savings, which I really, really didn't want to do. "I can help you, if you need me to", she said. "I don't want you to do that, I'm fine.", was my response. I've been really proud of myself for being able to do things on my own. Even if it gets difficult from time to time.
Let me set something straight here. It's not like I had no food whatsoever in the kitchen. I wasn't going without (although, no sweet cookies or salty chips to snack on). I have food to eat. I had soups in my freezer, along with a frozen lasagna I made a few weeks ago, and items in my cabinet. I really only needed milk, cereal, and bread. I was just wanting to stock up. However, while I was at work, I received a call. "I'm getting you a few things and putting them in your car." "You didn't need to do that." "I know, but I wanted to. Besides, I didn't get you a whole lot."
When I made it home last night, I started to pull stuff out of the bags I found in my car. It was more than "not a whole lot". It was way more than I had ever expected. I never asked for it either. I started to laugh too because 13 of the items I pulled out were on the list I had created earlier (and never shared, by the way). This must be a testament to how well my mom and I know each other.
I am truly blessed to have: a) parents that want to help me, even when I don't ask, and b) parents that are able to help me, c) some of my favorite things there, and d) enough sugar to last me a year now. :)
While putting it all way, something hit me. As much as you want to be independent, you should let others help you when they offer. I never ask for anything. I feel guilty sometimes that I can't always do it all on my own. You learn to make sacrifices for what you really need, versus what you want. Although, I learned to swallow my pride a little and accept the wonderful gift that was given to me with tremendous thanks. That small gesture brought a huge smile to my face and quite a bit of savings. It also brought some relief. Not only do I only need to pick up a few things, I am able to get my hair done as well. This may seem superficial to some people, but my hair treatment is my only splurge and it's been over 12 weeks. So, I say again: Thank You!